Nov. 26, 2018

Name/Age: Ameyah

Message: I just want to start off by saying that your blog is amazing! So raw.

I have just recently broken up with my boyfriend. Things have just been dead for almost a year. I know it’s time for me to go. I’m not being loved correctly. Even though I’m hurt, I’m trying to stay strong.
Here’s my problem, I start to feel really bad when I start thinking that maybe his family would like his new girl better. What if he likes sex with his new girl more than mine. I drive myself crazy thinking about these things. I have been with him for five years. It’s hard moving on with life without him.

Hey Ameyah, Moving On

Moving on with life with him isn’t working just as moving on without him isn’t [right now]. Given that, it should at least be easier to move on without him because of your hopeful future with a better love. The fact that he may meet someone that his family loves more is something if dwelled on, will leave you miserable and worrying and nostalgic of those good moments, BUT what about the family of your better love? Isn’t that better? Let those thoughts bring you to ease because let’s say you stay because of these things you’re worried about, will you be happy? Is it a strong enough reason to stay? No. The fact that you aren’t happy and that the relationship isn’t working despite your efforts should be enough to cure these thoughts and if not cure, help you get better until time cures. If he enjoys sex with his new girl? SIS, what about the pipe your new love will lay on you!? What about you sis? Forget his family and his this hypothetical new girl. We don’t care about them. We care about you and your happiness! Don’t allow these thoughts to poison your freedom and attitude towards your future. We don’t have time to dwell on things that don’t matter. It’s just your ego wanting to remain on top. If you do or don’t… okay and? It still won’t matter or change the facts. You’ll be fine. Focus on YOURSELF. Focus on your friends, your career, your education, focus on everything BUT him. We want to move on right? Let’s not make it harder for ourselves.

I hope this advice helps you. -K