"Needing" Closure is Bullshit

    Closure is an ideal a lot of people struggle with. "I just want to know.., I can't move on. I need it". You feel like closure is needed to move on with your life from a bad situation and person who've hurt you.

    Getting closure from someone in order to move on with your life is unrealistic most of the time and never needed all of the time. In my opinion, at least. After listening to the dilemmas of so many people and even in my own personal life, I've drawn the conclusion that this idea of "needing closure" is bullshit. It's just a mechanism used because of a fear of moving on, so we make our lack of having "closure" (that we all truly know 9/10 we won't get) as a reason to not be able to move forward or is is used when in denial; unable or refusing to accept a terrible ending for what it is, in hopes that this "closure" will be what we want to hear and something we can use to justify any further dealings with that same person.

    When dealing with an unreasonable person, we will never get closure and we should never wait for someone else, unreasonable or not, in order to move on to happier days, free from all of the bullshit.

   I will say that yes, some people in certain situations may be mature enough and capable of giving you that confession or reason that allows you the emotional means to move on. Sometimes there are cases where someone puts that period where there once was a question mark and you can finally heal, but not always will you receive that so my advice: find your own closure.

    "Close" that shitty situation for yourself. If we really want to move on from the bull, we have to find our own peace. Find peace in realizing the reality and facts of the situation and closure in the acceptance of it.

     That's what I had to do.

    I've lost a friend or two to petty shit that could've been resolved, but wasn't, in situations that were solvable with a simple reasonable conversation, but at the time their egos were bigger than the situation, so no resolution. 

    You just have to move on. You can't let someone else's anger or carelessness hinder you from progression. Don't allow one person to have that power over you. Close that chapter. Reevaluate and analyze both sides and what happened. Think about your rights and your wrongs, because one can only be responsible for his or her own actions, and accept them. Accept that what is done has been done and there's no changing it. Accept that you HAVE to move on regardless because time will not stop because another person refuses to have a conversation with you or you don't get the answers you want. Yes, "want", because, you don't "need" it to move on, you just want a crutch. We can't have crutches. Sometimes we just need to take dem baby steps until we can walk again. Take your own steps.

"Needing closure" is bullshit, y'all.